I, by no means nor stretch of the imagination, consider myself to be wise. Those closest to me will attest to points in my life marked by a distinct lack of wisdom and complete ignorance of any kind of logic. But let it never be said that I don’t make mistakes, and sometimes I even manage to learn from them. To that end, I do have some collected wisdom; of grieving, thinking, writing and teaching these last few years.
- It will bloody hurt.
- No seriously, it will hurt, a lot… but not all at once and not the same for ever.
- If people say let me know if you need anything, both you and they will be relieved if you give them a practical job to do. They want to help, but they don’t know how.
- If you’re releasing balloons, don’t do it near a tree. But actually, just don’t dot it anymore, it’s hella bad for the environment.
- Don’t eat all your feelings.
- Shop around for a therapist. It is ok to have one session and realise it isn’t gonna work out, it’s like dating. When you know it’s right, it’s right.
- People will think you’re “over it”– be kind to them.
- You might think you’re “over it”– be kind to yourself.
- Carry on loving. Love often, love joyfully, love hard.