One of my favourite quotes is the one below, I’ve held on to it for many years now.
When I’m having rough grief days, when I feel ambushed by grief, when the world isn’t understanding, when I’m yearning for the before- I try to remind myself that I’m going to be ok, because up until this point I have survived.
Grief can make us feel like we are never going to be ok ever again. But chemically, grief is our brains doing the hard and painful work to ensure we can and will be ok once more. Grief is the process of our brains chemically rewiring after an attachment relationship ends, ensuring that biochemically we can feel joy again.
I know I’m going to be ok, because I have made it this far. I know I’m going to be ok, because my brain has done the hard work, so that I can be ok. I know that I will be ok, because there is no other choice.
Grief doesn’t end, we don’t get over it, but we can and we will be ok again.